A friend sent this to me. Not the normal thing for this Blog, but so what... He said it's a list of the top five regrets of people who were not far from the ends of their lives. I don't know the origin of this list but it's sure worth a look:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
life others expected of me.
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their
life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many
dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their
dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not
made. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have
it."
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their
children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this
regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients
had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so
much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with
others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who
they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the
bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends
until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many
had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships
slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving
friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their
friends when they are dying."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end
that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well
as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to
their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh
properly and have silliness in their life again."